You’re not broken.
And nothing is wrong with your emotional system.
What’s often outdated are the strategies you learned early on to stay safe, connected, or needed.
Many people come to this work after therapy, insight, or years of self-reflection, still noticing the same patterns quietly running the show. Not because they failed, but because understanding alone doesn’t update how we live inside ourselves.
This work is about meeting life as it is, without abandoning yourself or trying to manage reality into submission.
What the work actually is
I work with adults who are ready to take responsibility for their full inner experience without turning that responsibility into self-blame, fixing, or emotional control.
Together, we look at:
how early strategies formed intelligently
how they continue to operate beneath conscious choice
how to update them from an adult seat, in real time
This isn’t about regulating emotions so life feels easier.
It’s about developing the capacity to stay present, even when life doesn’t cooperate.
How I work (simple, grounded)
Our conversations are direct, relational, and embodied.
I pay close attention to:
what you say
what your body communicates
where responsibility subtly gets handed away
where authority is ready to be reclaimed
I don’t impose solutions.
I mirror what’s happening so you can see yourself clearly enough to choose differently.
Change happens not through effort, but through accurate contact.
What this is NOT (important boundary)
therapy in the traditional sense.
skills training
self-improvement
emotional soothing or performance improvement.
It’s an adult-to-adult inquiry into how you’re actually living your life.
Practical details
I offer 60-minute consultations for individuals and couples
Sessions are held via Zoom, FaceTime, phone, or in person in Boulder, CO (limited availability)
Find my inquiries on Substack at The View From My Couch, where many people first encounter this work.
